Comments on: What is Courtship? http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/ Strengthening the Family | Pastor Larry Cornett Thu, 28 Aug 2008 12:26:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.3 by: Michael http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-370 Mon, 22 Oct 2007 01:22:54 +0000 http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-370 <p>Hello Pastor.</p> <p>Looking back it is interesting that although I went on occasional "dates"... The Lord did not allow me to "date steady" until I was "willing" to marry who He led me to... thus it was not merely for illicit "self-gratification" ... He answered my prayer for a female companion only when my will was surrendered... I thank God for His preservation and selection...</p> <p>We saw how sovereignly God manifested his blessing on our relationship and brought our families into acceptance of our "dating"... I also in hindsight find it much in accord with your exhortation to look for why you "should Not" get married... I promised my wife that if I ever believed that we should not get married that I would tell her immediately ... of course, :) I also told her that if I believed that we should get married that I would let her know that too :)</p> <p>I was married over four years ago, but your counsel reflects a life of surrender and of remembering your FIRST love that challenged me as I wait on God daily for His blessing in my marriage.</p> <p>God bless.</p> Hello Pastor.

Looking back it is interesting that although I went on occasional “dates”… The Lord did not allow me to “date steady” until I was “willing” to marry who He led me to… thus it was not merely for illicit “self-gratification” … He answered my prayer for a female companion only when my will was surrendered… I thank God for His preservation and selection…

We saw how sovereignly God manifested his blessing on our relationship and brought our families into acceptance of our “dating”…
I also in hindsight find it much in accord with your exhortation to look for why you “should Not” get married… I promised my wife that if I ever believed that we should not get married that I would tell her immediately … of course, :) I also told her that if I believed that we should get married that I would let her know that too :)

I was married over four years ago, but your counsel reflects a life of surrender and of remembering your FIRST love that challenged me as I wait on God daily for His blessing in my marriage.

God bless.

]]> by: ADEOLA http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-346 Wed, 17 Oct 2007 15:23:38 +0000 http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-346 <p>can a two months courtship lead to a successful and long lasting marriage?</p> can a two months courtship lead to a successful and long lasting marriage?

]]> by: Mom Cornett http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-104 Wed, 14 Mar 2007 03:45:59 +0000 http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-104 <p>Courtship was God,s plan for us...We are still best friend,s after fifty nine years of marriage. God has blessed us abundantly. We enjoy the privelege of serving the Lord togather. Grandpa and Grandma</p> Courtship was God,s plan for us…We are still best friend,s after fifty nine years of marriage. God has blessed us abundantly. We enjoy the privelege of serving the Lord togather. Grandpa and Grandma

]]> by: alexakos family http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-17 Wed, 17 Jan 2007 16:21:14 +0000 http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-17 <p>We appreciate the example you and your family have set for ours.It is not easy raising children in today's society and your family is such a blessing to us. Thank you for the time and work you put in.</p> We appreciate the example you and your family have set for ours.It is not easy raising children in today’s society and your family is such a blessing to us. Thank you for the time and work you put in.

]]> by: drmike http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-16 Tue, 16 Jan 2007 18:59:40 +0000 http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-16 <p>I appreciate Scott's article and perspective. I'll just share what I have shared with my sons.</p> <p>I use the term courtship to describe 3 concepts.</p> <ol> <li><p>It reflects a heart of genuine love that seeks to protect the hearts of others rather than defraud them.</p></li> <li><p>It reflects a desire to honor parents, respecting their jurisdiction over their son or daughter and it is committed to honoring parents in accordance with Ephesians 6:1-2. In exchange, the person who honors parents can expect a promise: that "things will go well". It is ironic that so many young people grow up listening and honoring their parents in everything, but then, when choosing to whom they will give their heart, they forsake their parents' wisdom, protection and love at a time when they need them most.</p></li> <li><p>It is the yielding of the decision of a life partner to God . This is the only logical response of someone who has truly submitted to Christ as Lord and Savior. The question really for most young people isn't dating v. courtship, but "Who is Lord of your life?" If Christ is your Lord, then He is Lord over all of your life, especially critical relationships.</p></li> </ol> <p>Courtship, as I have described it here, should be no different than any other aspect of the true Christian's life: it reflects walking in an honorable way by faith in genuine love for others.</p> <p>Dr. Michael Jacobson</p> I appreciate Scott’s article and perspective. I’ll just share what I have shared with my sons.

I use the term courtship to describe 3 concepts.

  1. It reflects a heart of genuine love that seeks to protect the hearts of others rather than defraud them.

  2. It reflects a desire to honor parents, respecting their jurisdiction over their son or daughter and it is committed to honoring parents in accordance with Ephesians 6:1-2. In exchange, the person who honors parents can expect a promise: that “things will go well”. It is ironic that so many young people grow up listening and honoring their parents in everything, but then, when choosing to whom they will give their heart, they forsake their parents’ wisdom, protection and love at a time when they need them most.

  3. It is the yielding of the decision of a life partner to God . This is the only logical response of someone who has truly submitted to Christ as Lord and Savior. The question really for most young people isn’t dating v. courtship, but “Who is Lord of your life?” If Christ is your Lord, then He is Lord over all of your life, especially critical relationships.

Courtship, as I have described it here, should be no different than any other aspect of the true Christian’s life: it reflects walking in an honorable way by faith in genuine love for others.

Dr. Michael Jacobson

]]> by: Beth Ann Johnson http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-13 Wed, 25 Oct 2006 02:20:58 +0000 http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-13 <p>Definitely a good article. Thanks for sharing, Scott.</p> Definitely a good article. Thanks for sharing, Scott.

]]> by: Jeremy Gebhart http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-12 Tue, 24 Oct 2006 03:12:47 +0000 http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-12 <p>A thought provoking article Scott. Especially relevant to those of us who are college age or there abouts. Although for those of us in college, the challenge is to focus on school and not on the "distraction". It says in Prov. 24 to "prepare thy work without, and make it fit for thyself in the field, and afterwards build thine house." I think that it is important that a student finish college before he should marry.</p> <p>Its kind of nice that I can comment on things going on in the church all the way from school. God Bless!</p> A thought provoking article Scott. Especially relevant to those of us who are college age or there abouts. Although for those of us in college, the challenge is to focus on school and not on the “distraction”. It says in Prov. 24 to “prepare thy work without, and make it fit for thyself in the field, and afterwards build thine house.” I think that it is important that a student finish college before he should marry.

Its kind of nice that I can comment on things going on in the church all the way from school. God Bless!

]]> by: Jackie Biddle http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-11 Fri, 22 Sep 2006 21:03:28 +0000 http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-11 <p>As parents that experienced both dating and courtiship with their children I can safely confirm that the best route is indeed courtship. . .we experienced such a peace as we watched not only the relationship between the couples grow but the relationship between our families as well. This was never present in the dating scene.</p> As parents that experienced both dating and courtiship with their children I can safely confirm that the best route is indeed courtship. . .we experienced such a peace as we watched not only the relationship between the couples grow but the relationship between our families as well. This was never present in the dating scene.

]]> by: Sarah Z http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-10 Thu, 21 Sep 2006 22:37:39 +0000 http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-10 <p>Thanks for sharing that Scott!</p> <p>The \"big courtship talk\" you gave a few months ago has really stuck with me over the summer. At first I didn\'t like it. I kinda wanted to push it aside and think about working on that area later ...but it sunk in, and I knew I had to make some changes.</p> <p>Thanks for keeping us young people on track! : ) I know we\'re a handful sometimes!!!</p> Thanks for sharing that Scott!

The \”big courtship talk\” you gave a few months ago has really stuck with me over the summer. At first I didn\’t like it. I kinda wanted to push it aside and think about working on that area later …but it sunk in, and I knew I had to make some changes.

Thanks for keeping us young people on track! : ) I know we\’re a handful sometimes!!!

]]> by: Brian http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-8 Thu, 14 Sep 2006 20:02:37 +0000 http://www.bethelbaptisttemple.org/pastor-scotts-blog/follow-christ/#comment-8 <p>Scott, nice article, I'm looking forward to Part 2. During my high school and college years I was allowed to date. Each relationship ended in hurt and damaged relationship w/the other person. (realizing this is not the case for every dating exerience)</p> <p>The main contrast for me between my dating relationships and Tracey and I's courtship was our parents involvement and the 100% commitment from both of us that we were going to see this through (God willing) to marriage.</p> <p>I know that there is not a magic formula (...do these 6 steps and you'll be married) to courtship or recipe to go by, but I've seen these basic principles result in successful relationships.</p> Scott, nice article, I’m looking forward to Part 2. During my high school and college years I was allowed to date. Each relationship ended in hurt and damaged relationship w/the other person. (realizing this is not the case for every dating exerience)

The main contrast for me between my dating relationships and Tracey and I’s courtship was our parents involvement and the 100% commitment from both of us that we were going to see this through (God willing) to marriage.

I know that there is not a magic formula (…do these 6 steps and you’ll be married) to courtship or recipe to go by, but I’ve seen these basic principles result in successful relationships.

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